Why haven't you married yet?

Why haven't you married yet? the Rebbe wanted to know.

I haven't met the right one.

What will the right one look like?

A charismatic Prince Charming stepped out of Chana's imagination and into their conversation.

The Rebbe laughed fully.

"You've read too many novels," the Rebbe said, still laughing but growing more serious. "Novels are not real life: they're fictions. They're full of romance and infatuation. Infatuation is not real. Infatuation is not love.

"Love is life," the Rebbe continued. "It grows through small acts of two people living together. With time they cannot imagine life without each other."

Infatuation you fall into. Love you build. And love-–the barometer of a successful marriage-–is dependant 20% on the person you marry and 80% on the way you marry them every day.